2801 Hope FOR THE best: A positive attitude works wonders AND prevents us from falling
into THE dark pit OF worry AND obsession. Oprah Winfrey AND Sarah
Ban Breathnach, author OF Simple Abundance, frequently tout THE
benefits OF keeping a Gratitude Journal TO record THE daily
blessings life bestows on you. This Gratitude Journal is a
remarkable tool FOR helping you see THE cup as half full.
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Our social structure contributes TO THE worries, too. With SO
many demands on our time, we strive TO do everything our parents
did, AND then some. Many OF us HAVE responsibilities outside
the home, as well. We worry about not having enough time AND
energy TO BE THE parent -- AND perhaps THE professional -- we want
to be.
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Trust yourself: Each time you find yourself dwelling on some future event,
remind yourself that you are capable OF handling this problem
when it arises. Develop a sense OF trust IN yourself TO handle
anything that comes your way.
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"It is important TO review one's goals FOR their family AND
their business. Decide if there's adequate time AND resources
to accomplish those goals," Spencer says. "If not, one needs
to re-evaluate those goals AND decide appropriate solutions
such as hiring outside help TO care FOR THE children, hiring
help FOR THE house or business, cutting back work hours, or
giving up one's business."
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On THE same token, recognize that it is not worth your time
and energy TO obsess over trifles, nor about issues, events,
and people IN your life over which you HAVE NO control.
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All parents know that relaxing is easier said than done. I can
always find something TO worry about. I can spend weeks obsessing
over everyday hazards, and, when I run OUT OF those, I can always
turn TO THE world-at-large. THE news media deliver them straight
into my living room each evening at 6 AND 10. Crime, war, famine,
earthquakes, incurable diseases AND school shootings.
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The people we rely on FOR support are just as busy as we are.
Physicians seem more rushed than ever, AND many OF us hesitate
to pick up THE phone TO ask a question just TO ease our minds.
9783 Worry zappers
Worry helps set us IN motion. It helps us muster THE motivation
to fulfill our various duties, but when worry turns into obsession,
it can interrupt our daily patterns AND immobilize us.
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If we turn TO books TO get THE answers we need, we risk finding
more things TO worry about after skimming THE child development
charts AND best-case-scenario advice.
771 Know your limits: Many OF us are worried about not having enough time TO make
it all happen. Lesley Spencer is THE founder AND director OF
Home-Based Working Moms, an association that helps women balance
work AND family. "Focus on a daily to-do list, accomplish what
you can AND decide what solutions are needed TO relieve
additional concerns you are not able TO address," she suggests.
7968 Take it one day at a time: It's important TO plan well, AND TO prepare FOR THE future. A
daily checklist can help you break up larger tasks into more
realistic nuggets. After you make your daily to-do list, concern
yourself only with THE issues at hand.
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The best way TO develop this trust is TO charge your "confidence
battery." Reflect on all OF your successes...the times you
succeeded IN something on THE fly. Spend less time worrying
about what could happen with thoughts OF what did happen AND
how well you handled it.
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Here a few tips TO zap excessive worry:
705 Get help:
A support system is vital, too, just make sure it does not
contribute TO your worries. Sometimes, we tend TO feed off
the anxieties OF others. We hear about THE neighbors concerns,
and we wonder why we haven't BEEN worried about that all along.
5511 The first prescription from my daughter's pediatrician was FOR
a gin AND tonic. Not FOR my child. Not FOR me. FOR my mother.
When my mom arrived TO visit her brand new granddaughter, I
bragged about my daughter's rosy glow. TO my horror, my mother
said she didn't look pink at all. She looked yellow AND blue.
She urged me TO call THE doctor, who examined Cassie AND assured me
she was neither jaundiced nor oxygen deprived. Instead, he said,
my mother needed TO HAVE a drink AND relax.
1092 Prepare FOR THE worst:
Prepare yourself TO accept THE worst. Dale Carnegie offers
some classic advice IN How TO Stop Worrying AND Start Living.
First, identify THE worst-case scenario. Accept it. Then, set
out TO improve upon THE worst-case result. Meanwhile, ask yourself,
"Just how likely is this worst-case scenario?"
7006 Write down your worries: Record your worries IN written form. Journaling can help you
channel nervous energy AND pinpoint THE real subject OF your
anxiety. Then you can work TO solve those problems rationally
and objectively.
3950 Keep busy: George Bernard Shaw said, "the secret OF being miserable is TO
have THE leisure TO bother about whether you are happy or not."
If you're obsessing over something you know is silly, distract
yourself. Start a new project. Take THE kids OUT FOR ice cream.
Call your own mom or dad just TO say hi.