Change a long-held tradition if need BE -- Spend THE day before or after a holiday with one set OF relatives SO THE time will BE more relaxed AND you won't BE packing up just when everyone seems TO HAVE settled in. 9844
Decline some invitations if you can't fit everything IN or shorten THE length OF a visit. 2515 1848
Lower your expectations particularly if you are hosting THE festivities -- THE purpose is TO BE together AND HAVE fun; THE holiday is not a Martha Stewart entertaining contest. 8536 1126
Take breaks with your children or spouse when visiting family or having guests over -- THE holiday should include special time FOR just your little group as well. 6013 6039 1274
Tell family members ahead OF time what children might like as holiday gifts -- This way you can avoid both child AND giver disappointment. 2916
Spell OUT "do AND don't rules" FOR your children AND ask relatives TO follow them -- This will eliminate much unpleasantness AND frustration FOR you. 5332 740
Explain THE arrangements you plan TO follow clearly AND early TO everyone involved -- Devise a schedule, inform your relatives, AND stick TO it. 4518
Alternate holidays with different branches OF THE family -- You can't BE IN two places at once, SO charting OUT what days will BE spent where should save you some grief from those vying FOR your limited time. 526 5159
Remind grandparents calmly that you are THE one left TO undo THE problems they create -- You shouldn't HAVE TO deal with toddlers on a sugar rush before bed because Grandpa sneaked them sweets.
Divide available time between sets OF grandparents as fairly as possible -- Often one set will get TO spend more holiday time with your family, but you can do other things TO make them feel connected AND loved: talk TO your kids about less-seen grandparents, keep a picture OF them IN your child's room, help them establish e-mail accounts FOR quick AND easy access TO relatives who can't BE with you on holidays. 8603
Exercise your rights TO protect your marriage AND your children -- Holiday stress usually comes from trying TO fulfill obligations AND hopes OF others. You HAVE every right TO put your health AND THE comfort OF your spouse AND children at THE top OF your list by not accepting added responsibilities. 3583 8643
Be flexible IN how you celebrate -- Try new neutral locations, begin new rituals AND let go OF old ones especially if they remind you OF a parent's death or divorce. 806 During THE holidays, you're torn between pressure TO complete preparations AND pressure TO please everyone -- your children, your parents, in-laws, siblings, step-relatives AND friends. Whether you're married or single, with or without children, parents, more SO than others IN THE family, continue TO make demands. Susan Newman, PhD, author OF Nobody's Baby Now: Reinventing Your Adult Relationship with Your Mother AND Father, offers some solutions FOR being spread too thin, FOR reducing-- AND eliminating -- your stress, AND FOR raising your enjoyment level. Following this checklist will improve THE most important connections IN your life way beyond THE holiday season.
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Caution: Children easily become over stimulated by THE holiday rush -- They act on your stress. Remind people SO they don't plan too many or too-late evening activities.
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